tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-61557860741911484092024-03-05T21:32:28.408-08:00Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss Blog DirectoryThis blog is created and maintained by people who have experienced the loss of a baby in miscarriage, stillbirth, medical termination, or infant death. Our goal is to maintain a current listing of Babyloss Blogs, recommend related resources, and to post the latest Babyloss information.BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.comBlogger154125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-53351210523366804682010-02-01T04:11:00.000-08:002010-02-01T04:22:18.727-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers<br /><br /><a href="http://www.ababynamednathan.blogspot.com/">A Baby Named Nathan*</a><br /><a href="http://www.sendmealifeboat.blogspot.com/">Send Me A Lifeboat*</a><br /><a href="http://fortheloveofaudrey.blogspot.com/">Faith, Hope and Loving Audrey</a><br /><a href="http://www.isaacs-journey.blogspot.com/">Isaac's Journey*</a><br /><a href="http://www.whisperstomybutterfly.blogspot.com/">Whispers to my Butterfly*</a><br /><a href="http://www.survivingwithoutmylittleman.blogspot.com/">Surviving Without My Little Man*</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com188tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-81674236634088187782010-01-29T04:23:00.000-08:002010-01-29T04:40:59.448-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://holdingoncauseicantletgo.blogspot.com/">Holding on 'Cause I Can't Let Go</a><br /><a href="http://footprintsonourhearts.blogspot.com/">Footprints On Our Hearts</a><br /><a href="http://theparkersparadise.blogspot.com/">The Parker's Paradise*</a><br /><a href="http://corarei.blogspot.com/">Loving Cora Rei*</a><br /><a href="http://kjgill.wordpress.com/">Hope after Miscarriage</a><br /><a href="http://www.persuitofourfairytale.blogspot.com/">Life, Love & Persuit of Our Fairytale</a><br /><a href="http://gottjoy.blogspot.com/">Gott Joy!*</a><br /><a href="http://www.adragonflysembrace.blogspot.com/">A Dragonfly's Embrace</a><br /><a href="http://jeffsusangracie.blogspot.com/">Our Lives Forever Changed</a><br /><br />We have a backlog going back to November, so once again apologies for the time it takes to get through all the new blogs submitted.BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-59455279875864045852010-01-08T06:50:00.000-08:002010-01-08T07:00:55.135-08:00The Schuyler Blanket Project<a href="http://schuylersblankets.wordpress.com/">The Schuyler Blanket Project</a> started on <a href="http://www.ravelry.com/">Ravelry</a> (a knitting and crochet website) this summer when Tammany lost her beautiful baby daughter Schuyler Brynne. Many knitters and crocheters on the website got together and each made a square for a blanket for Tammany, in memory of Schuyler. Tammany knew that this lovely effort would bring comfort to other bereaved parents as well, and thus the Schuyler Blanket Project was born.<br /><br />Quite a few blankets have already been made and delivered to grieving parents. Typically the squares are 8x8 inches, made of any washable fiber in any colors you would prefer. There are hints and suggestions on the project blog.<br /><br />The link above and on the sidebar here is to the project blog, though most of the work is currently coordinated through a group on <a href="http://www.ravelry.com/">Ravelry</a>. Rav is currently by membership only, though membership is free -- you just have to sign up. If you are interested in the fiber arts and not yet a member there, I suggest you sign up as it is a real treat.katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-9692062651415066032009-11-04T11:35:00.000-08:002009-11-04T11:57:55.383-08:00Welcome to the following bloggersA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://babyloss.wordpress.com/">b-loss-om</a><br /><a href="http://emiwantsababy.blogspot.com/">How I Really Feel</a>*<br /><a href="http://jessharsh.blogspot.com/">Hopeful Heart</a>*<br /><a href="http://www.jonaselliot.blogspot.com/">Too Beautiful For Earth*</a><br /><a href="http://laurenalexis1.blogspot.com/">Living By Faith</a><br /><a href="http://www.cradlesandgraves.com/">Cradles and Graves*</a><br /><a href="http://kristyshealingheart.blogspot.com/">My Healing Heart*</a><br /><a href="http://www.stayathomemommydaze.com/">Stay at Home Mommy Daze*</a><br /><a href="http://ellashalo.blogspot.com/">Ella's Halo</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-87456888329509332142009-11-04T11:30:00.000-08:002009-11-04T11:33:31.757-08:00Premature Births Are Fueling Higher Rates of Infant Mortality in U.S<span style="font-size:130%;">Premature Births Are Fueling Higher Rates of Infant Mortality in U.S., Report Says</span><br />By <a title="More Articles by Denise Grady" href="http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/people/g/denise_grady/index.html?inline=nyt-per">DENISE GRADY</a><br />Published: November 3, 2009<br /><br />High rates of premature birth are the main reason the United States has higher <a title="Recent and archival news about infant mortality." href="http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/subjects/i/infant_mortality/index.html?inline=nyt-classifier">infant mortality</a> than do many other rich countries, government researchers reported Tuesday in <a title="Read the report." href="http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/databriefs/db23.htm">their first detailed analysis</a> of a longstanding problem.<br /><br />In Sweden, for instance, 6.3 percent of births were premature, compared with 12.4 percent in the United States in 2005, the latest year for which international rankings are available. Infant mortality also differed markedly: for every 1,000 births in the United States, 6.9 infants died before they turned 1, compared with 2.4 in Sweden. Twenty-nine other countries also had lower rates.<br /><br />If the United States could match Sweden’s prematurity rate, the new report said, “nearly 8,000 infant deaths would be averted each year, and the U.S. infant mortality rate would be one-third lower.”<br /><br />The first author of the report, Marian F. MacDorman, a statistician at the National Center for Health Statistics, said in an interview that the strong role prematurity played came as a surprise to her. <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/04/health/04infant.html?_r=1&ref=science">More</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-33579309615849732202009-10-16T12:09:00.000-07:002009-10-16T13:05:02.302-07:00New Blogs Recently SubmittedA warm welcome to the following Bloggers:<br /><ul><li><a href="http://minnesotamomthinking.blogspot.com/">Minnesota Mom Thinking</a></li><li><a href="http://www.notratedpg.blogspot.com/">not rated PG</a></li><li><a href="http://thumper25.blogspot.com/">Thumpin' Along</a></li><li><a href="http://asuckerforgerberas.wordpress.com/">A Sucker for Gerberas</a></li><li><a href="http://tinybigfeet.blogspot.com/">Tiny Big Feet</a></li><li><a href="http://not-sure-what-to-do.blogspot.com/">Not Sure What To Do</a></li><li><a href="http://heathermohr.wordpress.com/">Heather Mohr's Blog</a></li><li><a href="http://butterfliesandkittens.blogspot.com/">Butterflies and Kittens</a></li><li><a href="http://herownpace.blogspot.com/">This is My Pace</a></li><li><a href="http://emptyarmsopenheart.blogspot.com/">praying for our chance at a miracle</a></li><li><a href="http://losslikenoother.blogspot.com/">Through the Eyes of Loss</a></li><li><a href="http://jenmagee.blogspot.com/">attempting to love life without her</a></li><li><a href="http://foreverelliotsmommy.blogspot.com/">ForeverElliotsMommy</a></li><li><a href="http://zenmilk.wordpress.com/">zen milk</a></li><li><a href="http://teddybeartins.blogspot.com/">Teddy Bear Tins</a></li><li><a href="http://www.highfivable.blogspot.com/">Team Burkey</a></li><li><a href="http://www.kellyandblue.blogspot.com/">Lightning Strikes Twice</a></li></ul>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-56696405798629804972009-10-15T10:02:00.000-07:002009-10-15T10:04:56.842-07:00Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance DayToday is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day<br /><br />Light a candle at 7pm in all timezones to create a continuous wave of light across the world.<br /><br />See <a href="http://www.october15th.com/">www.october15th.com</a> for more information.Rosepetalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11198906406934870970noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-80171867199471334892009-10-04T21:11:00.000-07:002009-10-06T08:39:02.609-07:00New Blogs Recently SubmittedA warm welcome to the following Bloggers:<div><ul><br /><li><a href="http://almostamother.blogspot.com">Almost a Mother</a></li><li><a href="http://lovelosshope.blogspot.com/">Love, Loss and Hope</a></li><li><a href="http://www.fertilitywheel.blogspot.com/">Fertilityhope</a></li><li><a href="http://rylieandchris.blogspot.com/">The Martin Family</a></li><li><a href="http://frommourningtomission.blogspot.com/">From Mourning to Mission</a></li><li><a href="http://vickienadine.blogspot.com/">The Joy of the Lord is My Strength</a></li><li><a href="http://babiesarenotus.blogspot.com/">So What Now?</a></li><li><a href="http://jenn625.blogspot.com/">The Blue Sparrow</a></li><li><a href="http://jasperthomas.blogspot.com/">Jasper, Forever Our First</a></li><li><a href="http://www.asleepingsumlin.blogspot.com/">Born Still, Still Loved</a></li><li><a href="http://brieandnickzentil.blogspot.com/">Two of a Kind Workin' On A Full House</a></li><li><a href="http://pregnancy-after-miscarriage.blogspot.com/">Pregnancy After Miscarriage</a></li><li><a href="http://stillmaggie.wordpress.com/">STILL</a></li><li><a href="http://www.tinyangels.ca/">Tiny Angels</a></li><li><a href="http://gerardoorellanaiii.blogspot.com/">Gerardo Orellana III</a></li><li><a href="http://thebiggestloss.blogspot.com/">The Biggest Loss</a></li><li><a href="http://therootofallevel.wordpress.com/">The Root of All Evel</a></li><li><a href="http://ourbumpyride.blogspot.com/">Our Bumpy Ride</a></li></ul><div><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-small;">This clears our summer backlog. If you have submitted your blog and it doesn't yet appear, please email again.</span></i></div></div>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-17893392776768267692009-10-03T20:49:00.000-07:002009-10-04T21:55:09.506-07:00New Blogs Recently SubmittedA warm welcome to the following Bloggers:<div><ul><li><a href="http://alison-ourlittlefamily.blogspot.com/">Missing Moira Mae</a></li><li><a href="http://wanttobebabymama.blogspot.com/">Life is a Funny Thing</a></li><li><a href="http://livingintherainbow.wordpress.com/">Living in the Rainbow</a></li><li><a href="http://www.veganinthecountry.wordpress.com/">Vegan in the Country</a></li><li><a href="http://www.jordanmemories.blogspot.com/">Jordan Memories</a></li><li><a href="http://www.handprintsfromheaven.blogspot.com/">Handprints from Heaven</a></li><li><a href="http://sweetjoshua.blogspot.com/">Sweet Joshua</a></li><li><a href="http://www.thetruthaboutunicorns.com/">The Truth About Unicorns</a></li><li><a href="http://wyattnathaniel.blogspot.com/">Letting Go and Letting God</a></li><li><a href="http://raising-arrows.blogspot.com/">Raising Arrows</a></li><li><a href="http://onceamother.blogspot.com/">Once A Mother...</a></li><li><a href="http://expectanthearts.blogspot.com/">Expectant Hearts</a></li><li><a href="http://toobeautifulforthisearth.blogspot.com/">Too Beautiful For This Earth</a></li><li><a href="http://www.eyeheartinternet.wordpress.com/">eye heart internet</a></li><li><a href="http://www.thisonetime-samantha.blogspot.com/">This One Time</a></li><li><a href="http://livingwithoutsophiaandellie.blogspot.com/">Living Without Sophia and Ellie</a></li><li><a href="http://mackenziesmama.blogspot.com/">Missing Mackenzie</a></li><li><a href="http://bubbaandbutch.wordpress.com/">Soundwaves Perinatal Bereavement Support</a></li><li><a href="http://lookingforbluesky.blogspot.com/">Looking For Blue Sky</a></li><li><a href="http://myangelbaby2009.blogspot.com/">Life After Miscarriage</a></li><li><a href="http://www.lifewithoutcameron.com/">Life Without Cameron</a></li><li><a href="http://mccormicksjourney.blogspot.com/">The Road Ahead</a></li><li><a href="http://everylifehasastory-home.blogspot.com/">Every Life Has A Story</a></li><li><a href="http://mommyofanangel09.blogspot.com/">Mommy of An Angel</a></li><li><a href="http://robinseasyeggs.blogspot.com/">Robin's Eggs Over Easy</a></li><li><a href="http://amy937.wordpress.com/">Amy + Dave = 937</a></li><li><a href="http://anangelintexas.blogspot.com/">An Angel in Texas</a></li><li><a href="http://brianasmommy.blogspot.com/">Dear Brianna</a></li><li><a href="http://lifeafterlosingluca.blogspot.com/">Life After Losing Luca</a></li></ul><div><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;">We still have a backlog of blogs to add. Your patience is appreciated.</span></i></div></div>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-57224283440609558932009-10-02T13:22:00.000-07:002009-10-03T22:01:45.059-07:00New Blogs Recently SubmittedA warm welcome to the following Bloggers:<br /><ul><li><a href="http://pregnancylossribbons.blogspot.com/">Stepping Stones</a></li><li><a href="http://movingonfrommiscarriage.wordpress.com/">Moving On From Miscarriage</a></li><li><a href="http://nertsmommy.blogspot.com/">Nert's Mommy's Blog</a></li><li><a href="http://almostamother.blogspot.com/">Almost a Mother</a></li><li><a href="http://yomamamusings.blogspot.com/">Mama Musings</a></li><li><a href="http://www.letterstonoah.blogspot.com/">Letters To Noah</a></li><li><a href="http://vaydenjamesstewart.blogspot.com/">Through My Mothers Eyes</a></li><li><a href="http://hoster777.blogspot.com/">His Grace is Sufficient</a></li><li><a href="http://eightwaiting.blogspot.com/">A Day In Our Life</a></li><li><a href="http://elmcitydad.wordpress.com/">Elm City Dad</a></li><li><a href="http://thehuntformyfertility.wordpress.com/">the hunt for my fertility</a></li><li><a href="http://www.momentsofpause.blogspot.com/">Moments of Pause</a></li><li><a href="http://www.ninemonthsandcounting.typepad.com/">Nine Months and Still Counting</a></li><li><a href="http://thedesireofmyheart-noelle.blogspot.com/">Desire of My Heart</a></li><li><a href="http://singingtotheroses.blogspot.com/">I Want To Be The Bluebird Singing</a></li><li><a href="http://hanamiprints.com/wordpress">Learning to Live Without Our Children</a></li><li><a href="http://www.sooners5.blogspot.com/">Sooners5</a></li><li><a href="http://sweetasparadise.blogspot.com/">Sweet As Paradise</a></li><li><a href="http://theunemployedmom.com/2009/06/03/empty-but-not-alone/">The Unemployed Mom</a></li><li><a href="http://rivalen-winkie.blogspot.com/">You Can't Get There From Here</a></li><li><a href="http://www.growingalittlesoul.blogspot.com/">Lessons From Cooper and A New Little Soul</a></li><li><a href="http://godsplannotmine.blogspot.com/">God's Plan Not Mine</a></li><li><a href="http://peacelikeariver-elianagrace.blogspot.com/">Peace Like A River</a></li><li><a href="http://smilethroughthestom.blogspot.com/">Smile Through The Storm</a></li><li><a href="http://mymendedheart.blogspot.com/">Heartbroken</a></li><li><a href="http://christiansmemory.blogspot.com/">Christian's Memory</a></li><li><a href="http://crazysurroundsme.blogspot.com/">Crazy, It Surrounds Me</a></li><li><a href="http://lolaconstanceevelyn-kristalee.blogspot.com/">Lola Constance Evelyn</a></li><li><a href="http://www.smithsociety.blogspot.com/">From My Point of View</a></li><li><a href="http://www.racheltenpennycrawford.blogspot.com/">Waiting for Morning</a></li><li><a href="http://themcconathys.blogspot.com/">Triplet Butterfly Wings</a></li><li><a href="http://deadbabyclub.blogspot.com/">The Dead Baby Club</a></li><li><a href="http://spilled-breastmilk.blogspot.com/">Spilled Milk</a></li><li><a href="http://dearestbaby-miscarriageblues.blogspot.com/">Mashed Potatoes</a></li><li><a href="http://melissaloss.blogspot.com/">Melissa's Life</a></li><li><a href="http://worldwasflyingby.blogspot.com/">Ten Minute Dream</a></li><li><a href="http://lifeafterleila.blogspot.com/">Life After Leila</a></li><li><a href="http://themilamfamilyblog.blogspot.com/">The Milams</a></li><li><a href="http://my4evababies.blogspot.com/">My Forever Family</a></li><li><a href="http://www.jennawoestman.com/">How I Became Awesome</a></li><li><a href="http://www.clarajanewells.blogspot.com/">Clara Jane Wells</a></li><li><a href="http://rememberingourtripletangels.blogspot.com/">Remembering Our Triplet Angels</a></li><li><a href="http://www.makennahope.blogspot.com/">Makenna Hope</a></li><li><a href="http://robnjenstwins.blogspot.com/">Our Miracle Twins After A Stillbirth</a></li><li><a href="http://mrsrootbeer.blogspot.com/">Deep Roots</a></li><li><a href="http://www.jasperthomas.blogspot.com/">In Memory of Jasper Thomas</a></li></ul><p><em><span style="font-size:85%;">This clears the backlog of emails to June 2009 only. We will continue to endeavor to catch up on emails through the course of the weekend.</span></em></p>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-65136693136026352402009-07-17T13:55:00.000-07:002009-07-17T14:00:37.691-07:00Newly Introduced Legislation will Support Education and Prevention Efforts for Stillbirth, SIDS and other Sudden, Unexpected Infant Deaths (SUID)Hi Everyone-<br /><br />I am writing you to ask for you to take 5 minutes today to support a very important piece of stillbirth/SIDS legislation that was introduced into Congress yesterday. As you may know, I traveled to DC twice in the last two years to advocate for stillbirth legislation -- some of you supported me in making those trips (thank you!!!). As a result of a visit I made (along with three other mothers and a doctor from First Candle) with a staffer from Obama's office (before he was president), a piece of legislation was drafted by his office. He became President before it could get any traction, but he hand-delivered it to Sen. Lautenberg and asked him to take it on. That revised bill was finally introduced yesterday, along with a companion bill in the House.<br /><br />On behalf of the hundreds of families I have written about over the last four years, and in remembrance of Avery, I ask you to contact your Congressional Representatives (a total of three emails and/or phone calls) to implore them to support the Stillbirth and SUID Prevention, Education and Awareness Act of 2009 and become co-sponsors. The bill would expand activities to identify the causes of stillbirth, identify ways to prevent it in the future and increase education and awareness about the issue among healthcare providers and parents. Below are links:-To find out the contact info of your Rep/Senators by typing in your zip code. -A fact sheet about the bills-A sample letter you can cut and paste in an email to make it simple. Including your own story is also helpful!<br /><br />In order for this bill to have a chance at passing, we need as many co-sponsors as possible. That means getting support from all over the country, so I am also asking you to email this to anyone else you think can help and/or post this on your web/social networking site. You can also just post the link to First Candle <a href="http://www.firstcandle.org/">www.firstcandle.org</a>.<br /><br />Please take 5 minutes to show your support for the bill right now...early support is key at getting momentum going.<br /><br />Thank you for reading this...and for considering my request. I don't usually ask people to take political action and I sometimes feel uncomfortable when others ask me to do so, so I can understand if you would rather not get involved. But if you want to and don't have the time today, please consider doing it as soon as you can.<br /><br />With deep gratitude, Suzanne<br /><br /><br /><strong>Newly Introduced Legislation will Support Education and Prevention Efforts for Stillbirth, SIDS and other Sudden, Unexpected Infant Deaths (SUID)<br /></strong><br />First Candle is pleased to announce that the Stillbirth and SUID Prevention, Education and Awareness Act of 2009 was filed July 14 by Senator Frank Lautenberg, D-NJ. A companion bill was filed in the House by Frank Pallone, Jr., D-NJ-6. This bill would improve the collection of critical data to determine the causes of stillbirth SIDS and SUID, increase education and awareness about how to prevent these tragedies in the future and expand support services for families who have experienced a stillbirth, SIDS or SUID loss.<br /><br />Every year there are more than 25,000 stillbirths in the United States. For more than half these deaths there is no known cause, leaving parents with more questions than answers as to why the baby died. The bill would expand activities to identify the causes of stillbirth, identify ways to prevent it in the future and increase education and awareness about the issue among healthcare providers and parents. In addition, there are more than 4,600 sudden unexpected infant deaths each year (including SIDS) and 200 sudden unexpected deaths of children between the ages of one and four. This bill encourages states to complete scene investigations to better understand why these children died, establishes a national database to track these deaths and identify risk factors to prevent them in the future, supports more comprehensive reviews and creates a national public awareness campaign to educate parents and caregivers.<br /><br />We hope you will join us in supporting this legislation.<br /><br />Please help by contacting your representative in the House and two Senators within the next week, urging them to co-sponsor this important bill.<br /><br />The more co-sponsors the bill gets, the more likely it is to pass quickly through the House and Senate.<br /><br />Participating in First Candle’s letter-writing campaign is easy!<br /><br />Visit <a href="http://www.house.gov/">www.house.gov</a> to get contact information for the Congressman in your District. You will need your 9-digit zip code. If you do not know your 4 digit extension, you can get it at <a href="http://www.z2systems.com/nps//servlet/DisplayLink?orgId=fc&emailId=306112&linkId=2591&targetUrl=http://zip4.usps.com/zip4/welcome.jsp">http://www.z2systems.com/nps//servlet/DisplayLink?orgId=fc&emailId=306112&linkId=2591&targetUrl=http://zip4.usps.com/zip4/welcome.jsp</a>.<br />You will then be able link directly to your Representative’s website.<br /><br />Visit <a href="http://www.senate.gov/">www.senate.gov</a> to get contact information for your states two Senators. Simply select your state from the drop down menu to connect to your Senators’ websites.<br /><br />We encourage you to call your representatives directly, or set up an appointment to meet with them face-to-face. Writing a letter or sending an email can be effective as well. Emails can be sent directly through your representatives’ websites.<br /><br />We have provided a <a href="http://firstcandle.org/illuminations/stillbirth.fact.sheet.pdf">Fact Sheet </a>about the bill, as well as a <a href="http://firstcandle.org/illuminations/lautenberg-sample-letter.html">sample letter </a>to help guide you.<br />Whether you are writing a letter or speaking with your representatives directly, be sure to include your personal story.<br /><br />First Candle would love to receive a copy of your letter or an email detailing your conversation with your representatives for our files.<br /><br />Members of Congress rely on input from their constituents to help them better understand what issues are important to those they serve. Help give our babies a voice!<br /><br />Please feel free to contact Laura Reno, 800.221.7437 or <a href="mailto:laura.reno@firstcandle.org">laura.reno@firstcandle.org</a> with any questions you may have.BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-84832216382473622009-07-17T13:33:00.000-07:002009-07-17T13:51:42.285-07:00New blogs submittedOh my - it's been a long time since this directory was updated. Please bear with us whilst the backlog of emails is cleared.<br /><br />A warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://henningerfamily.blogspot.com/">Happily Henninger</a><br /><a href="http://www.angelseashore.wordpress.com/">Angel Seashore</a><br /><a href="http://www.graceolaobrienpang.blogspot.com/">Grace Ola; Learning about grace, living life</a>*<br /><a href="http://thepathimwalking.blogspot.com/">This Path I'm Walking</a><br /><a href="http://heylyss09.blogspot.com/">Twists of Fate</a><br /><a href="http://www.twoweekwait.wordpress.com/">Maybe Baby</a>*<br /><a href="http://movingonfrommiscarriage.wordpress.com/">Moving on from miscarriage</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-85879947543967728412009-05-16T00:57:00.000-07:002009-05-16T01:15:55.242-07:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.lynnettekraft.blogspot.com/">Dancing Barefoot on Weathered Ground</a>*<br /><a href="http://carleighmckenna.blogspot.com/">Caring for Carleigh*</a><br /><a href="http://johnnygiovanni.blogspot.com/">In Memory of Johnny Giovanni*</a><br /><a href="http://babymakingoneohone.blogspot.com/">Babymaking 101</a><br /><a href="http://theehrlichs.blogspot.com/">The Ehrlich's (Our lives in a nutshell)</a>*<br /><br />and a new resource in Online Links:<br /><br /><a href="http://sorryforyourloss.wordpress.com/">Miscarriages*</a>Rosepetalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11198906406934870970noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-40417624762743687132009-05-09T13:13:00.001-07:002009-05-09T13:34:11.220-07:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers who recently submitted their blogs<br /><br /><a href="http://myyellowbrickroadhaspotholes.blogspot.com/">My Yellow Brick Road Has Potholes</a>*<br /><a href="http://www.makingcoyne.com/">Making Coyne</a><br /><a href="http://stillservinghimthroughthestorm.blogspot.com/">Still Serving HIM Through The Storm</a>*<br /><a href="http://westtemplelife.blogspot.com/">West Temple Life</a><br /><a href="http://2feetonearth1inthestars.wordpress.com/">2 Feet on Earth 1 in the Stars*</a><br /><br />and the following resource has been added:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Noahs-Rainbow-Fathers-Emotional-Daughter/dp/0895033151">Noah's Rainbow</a>: A Father's emotional journey from the death of his son to the birth of his daughter. By David FlemingRosepetalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11198906406934870970noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-15090742797236143352009-04-23T19:35:00.000-07:002009-04-24T13:59:26.579-07:00New Blogs SubmittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers, who have submitted their blogs in the past few months: <div><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(42,93,176); BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse"><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#000000;"><a href="http://www.fumblingtomotherhood.blogspot.com/">Fumbling Towards Motherhood</a></span></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(42,93,176)"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#000000;"><a href="http://beautyinthebreakdownart.blogspot.com/">Beauty in the Breakdown</a></span></span></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(42,93,176); webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: underline"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(0,0,0); BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse"><a href="http://sweetpeaproject.org/"><span style="font-family:georgia;">The Sweet Pea Project</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="COLOR: rgb(42,93,176)"></span></span></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://journey2babypeek.blogspot.com/">The Peeks</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.russjujeffery.blogspot.com/">The Jeffery's</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://born-still-but-still-born.blogspot.com/">Born Still but Still Born</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://motherofangels-rosa.blogspot.com/">Mother of Angels</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://threequartermom.blogspot.com/">Three Quarter Mom</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.babydekar.com/">Remembering the Life</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://babydekar.com/sample-infant-obituaries/">Sample Infant Obituaries</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.alwayscryingwithin.blogspot.com/">Forever Love</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.livingwithloss.blogspot.com/">Living with Loss</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.mawfam.blogspot.com/">With All My Heart</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://shantimama.blogspot.com/">Shanti Mama</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://sufficientgrace-kelly.blogspot.com/">The Beauty of Sufficient Grace</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://deliadean.blogspot.com/">At Office, At Home, I'm Never Alone</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://missingsydney.blogspot.com/">Missing Sydney</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://soclosebaby.blogspot.com/">So Close</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://onhavingfaith.blogspot.com/">On Having Faith</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://stilllifewithcircles.blogspot.com/">Still Life With Circles</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.lynnettekraft.blogspot.com/">Dancing Barefoot on Weathered Ground</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.justjonesen.com/">Just Jones'en</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://missinglukas.blogspot.com/">Missing Lukas</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://obrienfamily2008.blogspot.com/">The O'Brien Family</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://afteriris.wordpress.com/">After Iris</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://stickinmybelly.blogspot.com/">Stick In My Belly</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://mymiscarriagestory.wordpress.com/">My Miscarriage Story</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://ourbabythomas.blogspot.com/">Our Baby Thomas</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://hudson09greer.wordpress.com/">The Baby Quest - Life After Losing My Baby</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://bbuchler.blogspot.com/">The Music Of My Life</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://experiencetherainbow.blogspot.com/">Surviving the Storm</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://simplymoejar.blogspot.com/">Simply Mojar</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://demetersfeet.blogspot.com/">Demeter's Feet</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://anchoredhope4you.blogspot.com/">Anchored Hope After Losing a Baby</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://anchoredhope4yourpregnancy.blogspot.com/">Anchored Hope For Your Pregnancy</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.kerryhasenbalg.typepad.com/">Walking with God in a Broken World</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://memorialjewellery.blogspot.com/">Memorial Jewellery</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://inannajourney.blogspot.com/">Innana Journey</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://sofarawaycadenmax.blogspot.com/">So Far Away - Caden Max</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.danielwadefinn.blogspot.com/">Daniel Wade Finn</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://at-infertilitys-door.blogspot.com/">The Journey of Infertility</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://babybutterflyella.blogspot.com/">My Baby Butterfly Ella</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://waterhours.wordpress.com/">klepsydra</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://lisaaaronandlloyd.blogspot.com/">Forever for Rossiter</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://www.mandigirl-muses.blogspot.com/">Mandigirl Muses</a></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse"><a href="http://freyja-kees-lovedsomuch.blogspot.com/"><span style="font-family:georgia;">FREYJA IONE + KEES HENRY</span></a><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="BORDER-COLLAPSE: collapse;font-family:georgia;" ><a href="http://allthelittleponies.blogspot.com/">All The Little Ponies</a></span></li></ul></div>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-36722324911767843552009-03-03T12:53:00.000-08:002009-03-03T12:54:59.882-08:00Saving Babies' Lives Report - Sands UKSands UK<br /><br /><a href="http://www.uk-sands.org/no_cache/News/Newspage/article/92/88.html">Countdown to Parliament</a><br />28.02.09<br /><a onclick="openPic('http://www.uk-sands.orgindex.php?eID=tx_cms_showpic&file=uploads%2Fpics%2Fbigben_01.jpg&width=500m&height=500&bodyTag=%3Cbody%20bgColor%3D%22%23ffffff%22%3E&wrap=%3Ca%20href%3D%22javascript%3Aclose%28%29%3B%22%3E%20%7C%20%3C%2Fa%3E&md5=26743115d361b7dc1000dd7b83dca692','745d536866050cd7a80e432c001d0e3d','width=82,height=115,status=0,menubar=0'); return false;" href="http://www.uk-sands.org/index.php?eID=tx_cms_showpic&file=uploads%2Fpics%2Fbigben_01.jpg&width=500m&height=500&bodyTag=%3Cbody%20bgColor%3D%22%23ffffff%22%3E&wrap=%3Ca%20href%3D%22javascript%3Aclose%28%29%3B%22%3E%20%7C%20%3C%2Fa%3E&md5=26743115d361b7dc1000dd7b83dca692" target="thePicture"></a><br />On Wednesday 4th March we will be presenting our Saving Babies' Lives report which will highlight why we believe that in many cases the devastating impact of the death of a baby on the parents, their families and friends could be prevented.<br /><br />The overriding message from Sands and the thousands of parents who are supporting the Why17? campaign is that the deaths of 17 babies a day in the UK is totally unacceptable. What we want to see is a clear acknowledgement of the seriousness and extent of the problem and a real, collaborative commitment to address these individual tragedies as a matter of urgency and priority.<br /><br />The Why 17? campaign parliamentary launch, is an important event in the Sands calendar and will be hosted by Anne Milton MP, between 4pm and 6pm at the House of Commons.<br />This will give us the opportunity to raise awareness of Sands amongst key parliamentarians, as well as to present our Saving Babies’ Lives Report 2009. This new Report, being published and launched on 4th March calls for a co-ordinated, national strategy to tackle stillbirths and neonatal deaths, and the political will to prioritise the lives of babies as an urgent health issue.<br /><br />There are many people who have been instrumental to the Why17? campaign. To all those families, staff, volunteers and supporters of Sands who have backed the Why17? campaign since its inception, you are the driving force behind the campaign and our thanks go out to each and every one of you.<br /><br />Together we can make a difference.Rosepetalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11198906406934870970noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-8238441792318983262009-03-02T00:20:00.000-08:002009-03-02T00:34:52.673-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.carlaburlando.blogspot.com/">Here Am I</a>*<br /><a href="http://www.whycantistaypregnant.blogspot.com/">Why Can't I Stay Pregnant?*</a><br /><a href="http://www.butterfly-lacri.blogspot.com/">Miranda The Butterfly</a><br /><a href="http://mystolenlight.blogspot.com/">It Only Hurts When I Breathe*</a><br /><a href="http://lynetteosull.blogspot.com/">In The River*</a><br /><a href="http://ajourneythroughloss.blogspot.com/">A Journey Through Loss*</a><br /><a href="http://semi-fertile.blogspot.com/">Semi-fertile: When The Egg Is Willing But The Womb Is Weak</a>Rosepetalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11198906406934870970noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-53687989641112808702009-02-07T04:12:00.000-08:002009-03-02T00:30:43.792-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://lindsaylala.blogspot.com/">Lala Land</a>*<br /><a href="http://rachelsramblings365.blogspot.com/">Rachels Ramblings 365</a><br /><a href="http://ourstory-ashly.blogspot.com/">Today I Crawled Out From Under My Rock</a><br /><a href="http://tryingtobelieveinmiracles.blogspot.com/">Trying to Believe in Miracles</a><br /><a href="http://www.ellisjane08.blogspot.com/">EllisJane</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-34285833608923561832009-02-03T12:16:00.000-08:002009-02-03T12:18:05.119-08:00Upcoming UK News StoryThe following request for participation was recently submitted:<br /><br /><blockquote>I am a freelance journalist researching a story for a national UK publication about how blogging helps mothers deal with the loss of a child. The purpose of the article is to highlight how blogs can go some way towards dealing with grief by providing an outlet for thoughts and feelings as well as building a support network via the larger blogging community. This is a subject that, to the best of my knowledge, gets little attention in the mainstream media but I have definite interest from an editor and the story ought to be helpful in publicizing baby loss blogs, particularly in the UK. I understand that this is a very delicate matter and I would like to stress that I do not intend to probe any areas that a family deems private. If you are a UK blogger and would like to discuss this a little further I would be happy to answer any concerns you might have. I can be reached via email at <em>pdberger AT gmail DOT com</em>.<br /><br />Paul Berger.<br /></blockquote>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-30147526154435808782009-01-31T10:46:00.000-08:002009-01-31T10:57:38.871-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://lifewithoutclarence.blogspot.com/">Life Without Clarence*</a><br /><a href="http://thelauers03.blogspot.com/">Our Cup Runneth Over</a><br /><a href="http://kirchink.blogspot.com/">Kirchink</a><br /><a href="http://carlynicoleelliotte.blogspot.com/">Carly Nicole Elliotte My Micro-Preemie</a> and <a href="http://hannahkathleanelliotte.blogspot.com/">Hannah Kathlean Elliotte...My angel in heaven</a><br /><a href="http://shaliniwhite.blogspot.com/">By the pricking of my thumbs</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-64958768871248986452009-01-30T09:26:00.000-08:002009-01-30T09:32:19.461-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://burnettefamilytimes.blogspot.com/">One in my heart and one in my arms*</a><br /><a href="http://tuesdayshope.blogspot.com/">Tuesday's Hope</a><br /><a href="http://overeducatedmommy.blogspot.com/">Overeducated Mommy*</a><br /><a href="http://gretchen-embracing-my-life.blogspot.com/">Embracing My Life*</a><br /><a href="http://heart-heal-hope.blogspot.com/">Heart Heal Hope*</a><br /><a href="http://therealbean.blogspot.com/">The Real Bean</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-24087014369176963112009-01-26T17:18:00.000-08:002009-01-26T18:38:22.960-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://brandyj-jeremiah2911.blogspot.com/">From Valleys to Rivers*</a><br /><a href="http://www.barbaraboucher.blogspot.com/">burble</a><br /><a href="http://missingeliana.wordpress.com/">Missing Eliana</a><br /><a href="http://lifewithoutmybaby.wordpress.com/">life without my baby</a><br /><a href="http://www.intothewestblog.blogspot.com/">Into The West</a><br /><a href="http://thegreatumbrellaheist.blogspot.com/">The Great Umbrella Heist*</a><br /><a href="http://www.steveandkarin.blogspot.com/">Until we meet again...</a><br /><a href="http://foreverinourhearts-mel.blogspot.com/">Forever in our Hearts*</a><br /><a href="http://lovinglivingloss.blogspot.com/">loving, living and loss*</a><br /><a href="http://still-birth-mothers.blogspot.com/">STILL</a><br /><a href="http://departedangel.blogspot.com/">Departed Angel</a><br /><a href="http://howlongnowkd.blogspot.com/">Are we there yet??*</a><br /><a href="http://railyuh.blogspot.com/">aurelia ann*</a><br /><a href="http://novemberiwillalwaysremember.blogspot.com/">November I will Always Remember</a><br /><a href="http://everythingisundercontrol.blogspot.com">Everything Is Under Control*</a>BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-25060200402671494772009-01-26T11:15:00.000-08:002009-01-26T11:33:47.309-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.mommamia333.blogspot.com/">Thoughts From A Grieving Mother</a>*<br /><a href="http://fromthegridandbeyond.blogspot.com/">From The Grid And Beyond</a>*<br /><a href="http://theharryboard.blogspot.com/">Harry Line</a>*<br /><a href="http://lifeandloveinthepetridish.blogspot.com/">Life and Love in the Petri Dish</a><br /><a href="http://shinyungoh.blogspot.com/">Because You Never Know</a><br /><a href="http://littletinyfootprints.blogspot.com/">Tiny Footprints</a>*<br /><a href="http://jeremiah18-4.blogspot.com/">Surrender</a>*BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-16416205744947519692009-01-25T07:37:00.000-08:002009-01-25T08:16:03.650-08:00New blogs submittedA warm welcome to the following bloggers<br /><br /><a href="http://www.danandhillary.blogspot.com/">Dan, Hillary, and Little Russell</a><br /><a href="http://www.agardenforbutterflies.blogspot.com/">A Garden For Butterflies</a><br /><a href="http://infantloss-pastpresentfuture.blogspot.com/">Infant Loss- Past, Present, Future</a><br /><a href="http://wednesdayswithmalou.wordpress.com/">A Lifetime of Love</a><br /><a href="http://www.shareapy.blogspot.com/">Shareapy</a><br /><a href="http://sgirl79.blogspot.com/">He Will Carry Me</a><br /><a href="http://notalwaysclevergirl.blogspot.com/">California is Calling</a><br /><a href="http://www.brielleandnatalie.blogspot.com/">Angels Brielle and Natalie</a><br /><a href="http://www.more-love-to-thee.blogspot.com/">More Love to Thee</a><br /><br />If you sent an email and your blog hasn't been added yet, apologies. Please bear with us as we work together to catch up on a backlog of emails.BabylossDirectoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10182496487980073269noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155786074191148409.post-59327896568994361592009-01-11T00:33:00.000-08:002009-01-11T00:34:54.399-08:00First person<em>When Thelma Williams' baby died at birth, his body was whisked away and he wasn't spoken of again. It took 40 years to confront her grief and finally give a name to her lost child - James<br />As told to Kate Hilpern</em><br /><br /><a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/theguardian" name="&lid={contentTypeByline}{The Guardian}&lpos={contentTypeByline}{1}">The Guardian,</a> Saturday 10 January 2009<br /><br />I know I'm not the first woman to have found something she would rather not have discovered in her husband's suit pocket. In my case, it was a notification of the burial of our son. I didn't even know he had been buried until that moment. I had been told when I was six months pregnant that he would die the moment he left my body and somehow I just accepted it when he was whisked away and never spoken of again. This was the 1960s. You didn't talk about such things.<br /><br />At least, I think it was the 1960s. That's the thing. It could have been 1970. I couldn't tell you what day it was, what season, let alone which year - such was my determination to follow the advice and forget, a task only momentarily but acutely interrupted by the burial slip.<br />We had another baby later on. I did everything they told me, resting almost solidly for nine months. On 26 December 1971, in the afternoon, Emma was born, a beautiful little girl weighing 7lb 13oz. Home we went with joy in our hearts and everything ahead of us.<br /><br />It was only when Emma had her own baby, Millie, that it hit me. They say time heals, but there has been nothing chronological about my journey of grief. Nor anything predictable. Out of nowhere it came, threatening to drive a wedge between me and my granddaughter, a granddaughter I had loved unconditionally from the moment I knew she was conceived. But love is different from bonding, I have learned. Bonding is something I could not do with Millie until I acknowledged the loss of my baby boy. And when I had done that - and at last found a place for him to rest in my consciousness - I discovered a bond closer than I could have imagined.<br /><br />It was 2004, the year before I turned 70, that Emma became pregnant. It was such wonderful news and at first I accepted my niggles of fear as normal. Doesn't every mother of a pregnant daughter worry like mad that everything will be all right? But my anxiety kept growing. Emma knew the reason immediately. Once she reached adolescence, I told her about my stillbirth. She had wanted to know why she had no brothers and sisters. I had surprised myself with how "together" I sounded when I spoke of it. I could relay the facts - facts of which I had hardly mentioned in decades - without a tear in my eye and after I told Emma, I found I could tell others too. Provided I stuck to the facts - and didn't enter the realm of feelings - I sounded like a survivor.<br /><br />Emma knows me very well and as the weeks of her pregnancy totted up, she spotted the cracks in my shield. She wanted to protect me, to reassure me that everything was OK, but understandably she was starting to feel anxious too. Could what had happened to me happen to her too?<br /><br />We spoke to the midwife and the specialist. They assured us that all was well. The specialist knew about the condition that befell me when I was pregnant and was shocked to hear how I was treated. He used the word barbaric. He asked if I would like to see the scan of Emma's baby for myself, so I could feel comforted. I did see the scan but I didn't feel comforted. <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/jan/10/grief-loss-child-death-counselling">More</a>Rosepetalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11198906406934870970noreply@blogger.com0