How to Use the Directory

Welcome to the Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss Directory. This blog is maintained by volunteers to act like a "telephone book" for blogs dealing with the loss of a baby. It is open to anyone who has ever lost a baby in any way - we do not discriminate by age of your baby or circumstance of your loss. If you think you belong here, then we think you belong here.

When you submit your blog, it is manually added to the list, so it may take some time for it to appear on the list. When you submit your information as requested below, it is easier to spot those emails that have been redirected into the spam mail.

Blogs are listed by category of loss. This is to help you find blogs that deal with circumstances that may be similar to yours. That being said, it can be a moving and healing experience to read the blogs of people who's loss is not similar to yours. You are welcome to read any of the blogs listed here.

Though there could be literally thousands of categories of loss, we have created 4 broad categories: before 20 weeks, after 20 weeks, after birth, and medical termination. Please note that most blogs dealing with extreme prematurity are listed in the "after birth" category even though the gestational age might suggest a different category.

As a warning to those feeling particularly fragile, many of the blogs listed here discuss living children or subsequent pregnancies. In the sidebar links, those blogs are usually marked with an asterisk(*). However, the circumstances of individual bloggers will change, and sometimes the listings do not get updated. It is possible to encounter pictures of living children or pregnant bellies on the blogs listed here.

We also have a list of resources (books), online links, and online publications that you may find useful. Scroll all the way to the bottom of the page to see the full listing of links.

We are so sorry the loss of a beloved child has brought you here. We hope that you will find some solace within the community that has gathered.
Please help us set up this resource for grieving families by:


A. Submitting your blog information
(Email Subject: Please Add My Blog)
  • The link to your blog
  • The title of your blog
  • The topic of your blog (see sidebar - Personal Blogs)
  • If your blog discusses living children or subsequent pregnancy after loss

B. Submitting links to helpful web resources
(Email Subject: Please Add This Link)

C. Submitting titles of helpful reading materials or videos/films
(Email Subject: Please Add This Resource)

D. Adding a link to this site from your blog


Monday, March 26, 2007

Friday Blog Roundup - Coming Soon

First of all, I want to make it clear that I take no credit for this idea - I was asked to contribute to this wonderful site by its creators and I'm very, very happy to do so. And honored and grateful too.

The support and gentle understanding from people who truly do know what you're going through is invaluable when you find yourself struggling to navigate the terrifying and lonely road to healing after the loss of a child. The words of fellow mothers (and fathers) in mourning can be a salve on days when the pain seems almost impossible to bear.

It's those beautiful words that I'll be looking at and collecting at the end of every week, starting Friday, April 6th. It's called a Blog Roundup, made familiar to me by the good folks over at Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters. But while they roundup blogs on infertility, parenting and loss, the roundup here will only focus on blogs written by parents in mourning.

Even though our blogs are public, our thoughts, feelings and reactions to our losses are very private and personal. That's why I will only be referencing blogs listed on this site. If you have listed your blog here, then we assume it's okay to reference it in a blog roundup every now and then too.

Please spread the word. If you know someone who you think would like to be listed here - and included in the roundup - tell them about this site. Maybe even post a link to it on your blog if you're so inclined.

There really is strength in numbers. And unwavering support and an incredible amount of understanding and love.

1 comment:

delphi said...

I am really looking forward to this feature.