How to Use the Directory

Welcome to the Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss Directory. This blog is maintained by volunteers to act like a "telephone book" for blogs dealing with the loss of a baby. It is open to anyone who has ever lost a baby in any way - we do not discriminate by age of your baby or circumstance of your loss. If you think you belong here, then we think you belong here.

When you submit your blog, it is manually added to the list, so it may take some time for it to appear on the list. When you submit your information as requested below, it is easier to spot those emails that have been redirected into the spam mail.

Blogs are listed by category of loss. This is to help you find blogs that deal with circumstances that may be similar to yours. That being said, it can be a moving and healing experience to read the blogs of people who's loss is not similar to yours. You are welcome to read any of the blogs listed here.

Though there could be literally thousands of categories of loss, we have created 4 broad categories: before 20 weeks, after 20 weeks, after birth, and medical termination. Please note that most blogs dealing with extreme prematurity are listed in the "after birth" category even though the gestational age might suggest a different category.

As a warning to those feeling particularly fragile, many of the blogs listed here discuss living children or subsequent pregnancies. In the sidebar links, those blogs are usually marked with an asterisk(*). However, the circumstances of individual bloggers will change, and sometimes the listings do not get updated. It is possible to encounter pictures of living children or pregnant bellies on the blogs listed here.

We also have a list of resources (books), online links, and online publications that you may find useful. Scroll all the way to the bottom of the page to see the full listing of links.

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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

MISS Foundation Update

The MISS Foundation is featured in a prominent New York Times article on Tuesday, May 22, 2007.

A Move for Birth Certificates for Stillborn Babies

Last summer, three weeks before her due date, Sari Edber delivered a stillborn son, Jacob. “He was 5 pounds and 19 inches, absolutely beautiful, with my olive complexion, my husband’s curly hair, long fingers and toes, chubby cheeks and a perfect button nose,” she said.

The sudden shift from what she called “a perfectly wonderful healthy pregnancy” to delivering a dead infant was unfathomably painful, said Ms. Edber, 27, who lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Daniel. (continue)

We are grateful to the reporter, Tamar Lewin, for writing this very special story.

Unfortunately, we are also deeply disturbed by comments made by Ms. Perry Lynn Moffit which are clearly incongruent with the desires of many families experiencing stillbirth across the nation. Our position is that bereaved families of stillborn babies demand what is rightfully due them, and cannot be assuaged merely by an "informal memory certificate" offered by a hospital. This false assertion serves to undermine all of our efforts. Therefore, we reject this notion on behalf of thousands of stillbirth families around the country.

Further, we reject Ms Moffitt's characterization of the MISSing Angels Bill as suggesting that stillborn babies "become cherubs in heaven." The bill was named, instead, in honor of the many MISS Foundation children who died before their time, and embodies the more secular definitions of 'angel' including goodness, purity, and virtuousness (American Heritage Dictionary, 2007).

Ms Moffitt's unfortunate and misinformed comments aside, the article was well written, and accurately portrayed some of the complex struggles facing women, men, and families affected by the tragedy of stillbirth. We thank the courageous families interviewed in the article, and applaud the efforts of the volunteer lobbyists of the MISS Foundation working diligently in many states to pass this important legislation.

~MISS Foundation Email


Aurelia said...

I completely agree with the press release. Informal certificates are all I have, and I want more, much more.

This whole thing makes me so upset, since it really is about respecting all women's choices, not just the ones we agree with. You know, the whole point of feminism to begin with? Sigh...

delphi said...

I agree, too. I am not satisfied with the memorial certificate that my hospital sent home with me. It is a nice piece of paper. But what I want is what the parent of any child wants - a birth certificate. A legal document that says my child was born. I am not asking for anything special - just what everyone else gets.

Treehugger said...

I could not agree more.

And many, many feel the same way too!