How to Use the Directory

Welcome to the Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss Directory. This blog is maintained by volunteers to act like a "telephone book" for blogs dealing with the loss of a baby. It is open to anyone who has ever lost a baby in any way - we do not discriminate by age of your baby or circumstance of your loss. If you think you belong here, then we think you belong here.

When you submit your blog, it is manually added to the list, so it may take some time for it to appear on the list. When you submit your information as requested below, it is easier to spot those emails that have been redirected into the spam mail.

Blogs are listed by category of loss. This is to help you find blogs that deal with circumstances that may be similar to yours. That being said, it can be a moving and healing experience to read the blogs of people who's loss is not similar to yours. You are welcome to read any of the blogs listed here.

Though there could be literally thousands of categories of loss, we have created 4 broad categories: before 20 weeks, after 20 weeks, after birth, and medical termination. Please note that most blogs dealing with extreme prematurity are listed in the "after birth" category even though the gestational age might suggest a different category.

As a warning to those feeling particularly fragile, many of the blogs listed here discuss living children or subsequent pregnancies. In the sidebar links, those blogs are usually marked with an asterisk(*). However, the circumstances of individual bloggers will change, and sometimes the listings do not get updated. It is possible to encounter pictures of living children or pregnant bellies on the blogs listed here.

We also have a list of resources (books), online links, and online publications that you may find useful. Scroll all the way to the bottom of the page to see the full listing of links.

We are so sorry the loss of a beloved child has brought you here. We hope that you will find some solace within the community that has gathered.
Please help us set up this resource for grieving families by:


A. Submitting your blog information
(Email Subject: Please Add My Blog)
  • The link to your blog
  • The title of your blog
  • The topic of your blog (see sidebar - Personal Blogs)
  • If your blog discusses living children or subsequent pregnancy after loss

B. Submitting links to helpful web resources
(Email Subject: Please Add This Link)

C. Submitting titles of helpful reading materials or videos/films
(Email Subject: Please Add This Resource)

D. Adding a link to this site from your blog


Friday, June 1, 2007

Friday Blog Roundup - a shorter version and a must-read poem

I just happen to be having one of those days (my apologies, but they still come. After all this time they still come), so I'm abbreviating the blog roundup today and just asking you to take a look at this.

It's a beautiful poem by Missing One over at A Mending Heart. She lost her daughter this Mother's Day - just weeks ago. With sorrow so raw it still oozes from every pore, she somehow still managed to pen an achingly beautiful poem about what she believes makes someone a true mother.

If you have wondered, even for the briefest of moments, if you can still be called a mother if you have no living babies or if the babies you carried and lost were too small to see, read this poem.

If you're like me, it will feel like drinking an endlessly tall, ice cold glass of water on the hottest afternoon of the summer.

If you happen to know of any other soul soothing poems or passages like this one (or if you're written any of your own), please consider posting them (or links to them) in the comments.

Thank you Missing One. I needed that.

1 comment:

Ruby said...

Msfitzita, thank you for the time and energy you put into sharing these helpful links.

I continue to look forward to your "Friday Blog Roundup's." It gives me the opportunity to read blogs of other P.I.M. that I otherwise would have never found.

Your efforts are very much appreciated.