How to Use the Directory

Welcome to the Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss Directory. This blog is maintained by volunteers to act like a "telephone book" for blogs dealing with the loss of a baby. It is open to anyone who has ever lost a baby in any way - we do not discriminate by age of your baby or circumstance of your loss. If you think you belong here, then we think you belong here.

When you submit your blog, it is manually added to the list, so it may take some time for it to appear on the list. When you submit your information as requested below, it is easier to spot those emails that have been redirected into the spam mail.

Blogs are listed by category of loss. This is to help you find blogs that deal with circumstances that may be similar to yours. That being said, it can be a moving and healing experience to read the blogs of people who's loss is not similar to yours. You are welcome to read any of the blogs listed here.

Though there could be literally thousands of categories of loss, we have created 4 broad categories: before 20 weeks, after 20 weeks, after birth, and medical termination. Please note that most blogs dealing with extreme prematurity are listed in the "after birth" category even though the gestational age might suggest a different category.

As a warning to those feeling particularly fragile, many of the blogs listed here discuss living children or subsequent pregnancies. In the sidebar links, those blogs are usually marked with an asterisk(*). However, the circumstances of individual bloggers will change, and sometimes the listings do not get updated. It is possible to encounter pictures of living children or pregnant bellies on the blogs listed here.

We also have a list of resources (books), online links, and online publications that you may find useful. Scroll all the way to the bottom of the page to see the full listing of links.

We are so sorry the loss of a beloved child has brought you here. We hope that you will find some solace within the community that has gathered.
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Friday, January 8, 2010

The Schuyler Blanket Project

The Schuyler Blanket Project started on Ravelry (a knitting and crochet website) this summer when Tammany lost her beautiful baby daughter Schuyler Brynne. Many knitters and crocheters on the website got together and each made a square for a blanket for Tammany, in memory of Schuyler. Tammany knew that this lovely effort would bring comfort to other bereaved parents as well, and thus the Schuyler Blanket Project was born.

Quite a few blankets have already been made and delivered to grieving parents. Typically the squares are 8x8 inches, made of any washable fiber in any colors you would prefer. There are hints and suggestions on the project blog.

The link above and on the sidebar here is to the project blog, though most of the work is currently coordinated through a group on Ravelry. Rav is currently by membership only, though membership is free -- you just have to sign up. If you are interested in the fiber arts and not yet a member there, I suggest you sign up as it is a real treat.

5 comments:

jessah gomez said...

a unique way of condoling bereaved parents. i like it in the sense that it serves as a token to know a lot out there have related to what you have felt, and its not that easy to lost someone you long for a long time to come out. the eagerness, all the joyous moment you preserved in time for that little angel to come out and in one flick of an eye....he's gone.

Jhene said...

Hi,

Thanks so much for bringing attention to the topic of early infant loss. I love that this 'project' creates an active outlet of mourning for a heartbreaking loss. After my experiences with miscarriage. I needed to believe that the world was different in a positive way because of the losses. I was driven to create something that would not have existed had I not miscarried.

A filmmaker by trade, what resulted is a ten-minute short film The House I Keep, about a woman who struggles to come to terms with the loss of her baby through miscarriage. A relentless war between her internal and external life has plagued her recovery until she stumbles upon a curious symbol of hope that helps lead her back to peace.

After screenings of The House I Keep, I have been overwhelmed by the heartbreaking stories of miscarriage and early infant loss that women have felt compelled to share. These gatherings became transformative. Discussing the film has provided an 'appropriate’ place to share their own stories. Their silence was broken and isolation bridged.

My mission for the film is to improve the mental health of women and their families mourning miscarriage and infant loss by providing an identifiable voice through the film. The film is a platform for discussion and understanding, and hence, an impetus for healing.

With the film now complete, and ready to premiere in 2011, we are doing everything we can to raise awareness about the topic of miscarriage and our film. Please visit our website at http://www.thehouseikeep.com for more detailed information about the film. If you like what you see, please join us on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-House-I-Keep/69409738707.

Anything you can do to help us spread the word is, of course, very much appreciated!

Very best,
Jhene Erwin
Producer/Co-Director/Writer – The House I Keep

Baby Gift Baskets said...

This is an amazing project and I am glad we ran across your post. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help or contribute.

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Charlote said...

This is a great organization to help remember both the children and the mothers who have lost a child. After losing my daughter, I never felt so alone in the world. To this day, I still cannot accept that she is gone and so I have started using http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-dl to help me cope with her death and feel alive once again. Thanks again ladies for all your work, it's nice to know there are people who care!